While you’re a teenager, the point of dating is simply that—to make friends.In that spirit, dating—or getting acquainted—will always be alive and well. I am not sure, but I can see some contributing factors: 1.
These pressures against commitments obviously serve the devil’s opposition to the Father’s plan for His children. Whatever draws us away from commitments weakens our capacity to participate in the plan.
Dating involves commitments, if only for a few hours.
Hanging out requires no commitments, at least not for the men if the women provide the food and shelter. The leveling effect of the women’s movement has contributed to discourage dating.
For example, Felicity Lawrance says, “In England, the dating of my generation has become ridiculous. It completely skips the period of getting to know each other!
We’ve asked young men and women all around the world, and while there hasn’t been complete agreement, most of you have told us there’s just not a lot of dating going on where you live—at least not a lot of dating in the traditional LDS sense. ’ And if the answer is yes then you boyfriend and girlfriend.
” Some teens we talked to called this the “instacouple” phenomenon.Kathryn Jones says that in Colorado traditional dating is “pretty much dead,” particularly when it comes to dating a variety of people.She explains, “If an LDS guy went on a date with a non-LDS girl one week and then went out with another girl who was LDS the next week, the non-LDS girl wouldn’t get it.” So, exclusivity seems to be implied right up front, making it awkward to follow the counsel to date a number of different people.This trend away from dating seems to be pretty consistent, according to what LDS teens are telling us. Probably not when you are 17, but what about when you are 21?Your best bet is to hold fast to the teachings of the gospel, always uphold your high standards, and follow the counsel of prophets and apostles.One great source for gospel standards is where it says on the topic of dating, “Good friendships can and should be developed at every age” (, 24).