When Jasmine over at Zooming Japan asked me to write about dating Japanese women, my first thought was, “Ain’t no way Ken Seeroi’s touching that one.” In case you haven’t noticed, people are majorly opinionated about Their Japan. And not just Japanese folks either; I mean foreigners. Oh now somebody else starts rambling about traditional homes being all infused with zen beauty, and gardens and koi fish. Like if I said, “Japanese architecture is stunning,” somebody’d stand up and complain that the cities are just jumbled amalgamations of aging concrete projects.
(Now cue mad comments like “Well, I got laid in Tokyo last night.”) A lot of dudes who’ve been here for years gripe about the exact opposite.
The funny thing is, I don’t think I’ve actually met any guys here who’ve said that.
But you know, since I’m also a wee bit opinionated about My Japan, I had to take issue with some of her previous stuff: “. So according to information found on “the internet,” being a foreign guy makes it easy to land Japanese girls.
And although I’ve never met her, from what I gather she’s a very cool person. For some reason Japanese women seem to find even ugly foreign guys attractive …..” Now I don’t even know what hackles are, but if I’ve got any, I’m sure that got them up. So do foreign guys also go out with Japanese women? I personally think the “foreign guy with Japanese girl” sighting is pretty rare.
Plus, Jasmine kind of got my hackles up with a previous post. She’s a German blogger, and I give her mad props for being able to write so well in English. At least getting one woman after another into your bed, is really easy, even if you’re quite ugly! Men and women are meeting each other, at clubs, coffee shops, and at the mailbox on the corner. And you probably don’t notice it much unless—-oh wait—-they’re of different races.
And so it goes, in France, Germany, Bermuda, and all over the world.
Or to put it another way, everybody thinks it’s easy for the other person. Well, I don’t really either, but I imagine it’s that thing where if I say, “Japanese people are shy,” then you start noticing all the ways in which they’re shy. Basically about 99 percent of what’s written about Japan is just regurgitating some myth that somebody else said. It’s not that 100% of the people got lucky; it’s that you’re the only one who stayed around gawking. So I didn’t entirely relish wading into all this, but then Jasmine threw out a leading question I couldn’t resist: For one, I thought it was a strange question, partly because of the word “get,” which sounds like you’re going fishing for Japanese people. For another, I felt the real question was, “Is it easier to date in Japan than it is anywhere else?
There’s a Japanese woman walking with a black man—-they like black guys! There’s some statistical thing going on, is what I’m trying to say. Half a dozen couples a day, out of cities with millions of people. I mean, can you really talk about dating Japanese women .
There’s a short guy—-the Japanese really are short! That’s because the people who didn’t get lucky have already left. Although I still believe that for her to opine about dating as a foreign man seems roughly on par with me talking about being a German blogger.
They like “foreigners.” It’s like somebody visited Japan one time, went home and wrote about it, and from then on everybody ran around repeating the same stuff. In fact, if you stay long enough, and you don’t hook up, then by default everyone’s hooking up but you. So in the end, I wrote the article, partly because I enjoy reading Jasmine’s site and wanted to contribute.
At the end of the night, there’s always people hooking up. S., and I didn’t have to send fifty text messages before a lady’d let me pay for her entire dining experience. Jeez, for such skinny people, Japanese gals can sure pack it away.