I couldn’t explain why I didn’t want to date him, but I really, really did not. Soon after we met, he asked me out, and the optimistic side of my brain — the side that believes in hope and rainbows and fostering meaningful human connections — made me say yes. But on the day of our scheduled meeting, my rational brain chimed in. I wasn’t ready to date anyone; I was still grappling with a breakup and I felt like a mess.
Our non-courtship became undeniably like the first half of When Harry Met Sally (minus that scene at the wedding; “Is someone supposed to be a in this scenario? At the end of each non-date, we’d exchange a chaste hug and linger for a moment before waving good-bye. ” people would ask, and I wouldn’t know how to respond. Weeks went by, punctuated by “friendly outings,” each more purposeful than the next. For our first non-date, we met for drinks at a dark and divey bar. There were dinners, with candles, drinks and dessert. Most perplexing of all, he would insist on picking me up at my apartment before each outing — no matter the time, no matter the weather — even when it was completely out of the way. “We’re not dating,” he’d reassure me, as he proceeded to plan the dateliest dates I have ever been on.
Has it ever been faster — or slower — than you expected?
” Then one day, when I was finally ready to recognize the human-sized hole in my life, there was only one person who came to mind. How long did it take you to first fall for someone? Date conversation topics, and a tip to keep the sparks alive.
Meeting someone who suddenly makes you feel alive and loved is very exciting.
You may think no one has ever made you feel like this and you can’t help but be amazed at the chemistry, or electricity between you and this new love. But sadly those involved don’t take the time to get to know each other before jumping into something serious.
Often these kinds of relationships built on infatuation can die as quickly as they sprung up.
Wikipedia defines infatuation as: the state of being completely carried away by unreasoning passion or love; addictive love.