, is No.1 on the New York Times Hardcover Advice Best-Seller list and on Now, with appearances on “The Oprah Winfrey Show,” “The Tyra Banks Show” and “Today,” sales of the book are sure to skyrocket even more.In Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man Harvey reveals what men really think about love, relationships and commitment — and how women can tell if they have a man with whom they can make plans, or a man who is just playing with them.
I was very careful in constructing this book to make sure it had no color to it and that is the beautiful thing.I am talking about a subject I am an absolute expert on and that is manhood. I don’t know a man who is, but I am an expert on manhood. I don’t care how much we make, what we do for a living, what our religion is or what color we are. So when I sat down to write this book, I wrote it from the standpoint of what I was an expert at and from where I had the greatest source of information — and that was all of my friends who happen to be men. It is real conversation from a man who has no ulterior motive other than to tell them the truth.They are from all walks of life — ballplayers, actors, truck drivers, insurance salesmen, guys I worked in the factory with when I was at Ford motors, and my father. e Harmony: So how are you friends reacting to your giving away their secrets?I found that we teach this thought process to our sons. Steve Harvey: All of my friends are really cool with it.Some guys don’t get it, but they haven’t read the book either, as don’t a lot of men.
Sometimes men don’t read, so they think it is giving up the game, but it shouldn’t be a game when it comes to somebody’s happiness and somebody’s life. I think the disadvantage some women have had is they haven’t been exposed to the way men think of things.
Once you know how a man thinks, how he processes information, his thought patterns, then you can make a decision.
A lot of times you can make the most out of a man if you understand what makes him tick, what drives him, and what he has to have. I expose to women what drives men, how men love and what men have to have.
Then I teach women how to get how to get those things from a particular candidate that they are interested in.
e Harmony: What are the biggest mistakes women make when dating?
Steve Harvey: One of the biggest mistakes women make is they expect their love to be returned the exact same way they give it out.