The joy of text mating dating and techno relating

It's coming, a quiet rumbling that soon will become a clamor. This day, like other significant holidays of the winter months, can sometimes make -- or break -- your relationship. Was it bigger than a bee sting, sweeter than spun sugar and shinier than Disney Hall in the afternoon?

Here are a few ways to add a little high-tech sweetener to reboot your romantic life. "So many say technology is taking time away from their relationships," she says."You just have to figure out how you can make it work for you." And since so many people are meeting through technology, she says it's only fitting that it have a place in the relationship."Textual healing": In this category, Denay suggests a little bit of high-tech flirting and maybe a slightly suggestive voicemail -- nothing too over the top.Text sweet nothings to your honey or leave a sweet yet sexy voice message.Make them blush in that boring meeting with a personal message, she says.

-- Modern-day mix tapes: Those of us old enough to remember the '80s also remember the big deal mix tapes once were.(For those too young, we used to listen to music on these things called .) To capture the feel and personal touch of having a soundtrack compiled by someone who knows you intimately, Denay suggests creating a playlist for your honey's MP3 player."Name it with of something having to do with your relationship," she says.-- Book of textual poetry: Some have declared the romance and art of writing notes and letters in relationships dead.Not so, Denay says The modern version of that might be text and e-mail messages.You may have a very romantic diary of your road to romance wrapped up in the many electronic exchanges.